This past week we were able to get a teaching from Tita Maria Villanueva on a lesson of Taming the tongue. As a little change of venue, we actually had our teaching at St. Justin Martyr church in Anaheim. We learned that since we are called to serve God we must make sure that we lead with the Holy Spirit, especially in the way we speak. In order to do that we must: Pray, Think, then Speak.
Tremendous Power in our Words
Our words have a lot of power behind them, they can be used for encouragement yet also be used for discouragement. Can you remember a time in which you were lifted up by a person’s words? How about a time where you were deeply hurt by someone’s words? I sure you can remember moments where you have felt both.
“The mouth speaks what the heart is full of”
– Luke 6:4-5
With that in mind, we must be careful with what we say to others. As it is said in Luke chapter 6, “The mouth speaks what the heart is full of”. Do you agree with this? We say what we really feel in our hearts. So if God lives within us, shouldn’t the Holy Spirit guide our words? You may have heard, “think before you speak” but lets take that further. Let us challenge each other to pray, think, then speak.
Be Positive with Our Words
“Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear”
– Ephesians 4:29
Speak Blessings Over Others
Remember that when we speak that words can be used to discourage as well as encourage others, we must strive to only use our words to encourage. When we encourage one another we build our strength.
“Rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing”
– Proverbs 12:18
Challenge yourself to encourage another brother or sister at least once a week, or if you are up to it once a day or more! Remember that feeling of someone encouraging you and giving you praise, now share that with someone else by giving them encouragement. Be specific with your words of encouragement as it will be more influential.
Negative Words Hurt
Problems occur when we do not control our tongues. Problems that occur can be but not limited to:
- negative humor/sarcasm
“If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every fact may be confirmed. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.”
– Matthew 18:15-17
Build Up and Strengthen Others
Our speech should:
- increase love, trust, and respect for the person spoken about
- increase faith and hope
- express love, affection, and support for God and others
“for you were formerly darkness, but now you are Light in the Lord; walk as children of Light, (for the fruit of the Light consists in all goodness and righteousness and truth)”
– Ephesians 5:8-9
Powerful Words from God
God knows every word that leaves our tongue, we must work hard to tame the tongue so that with every word that we speak it is used to glorify God. We can do this by inviting the Holy Spirit to guide us in the way that we speak.
“I tell you, on the day of judgement you will have to give an account for every careless word you utter; for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
– Matthew 12:36-37